For me, this was when I really started to first experience new all-consuming levels of anxiety. I remember feeling so confused about my future and under a lot of pressure to make decisions. Expectations placed upon graduating highschool students can cause a lot of stress and from what I have seen in the papers nothing is being done to alleviate it. I gave myself such a hard time that often I would sink into unbearable bouts of depression. Here I was, a creatively-gifted person brimming with potential and yet I treated it like a curse.
“Why does this have to be my talent?” I would ask myself.
“Why couldn’t I have been born something with clear pathway, like a doctor or an engineer?”
The answer of course is now clear. Those are someone else’s gift, someone else’s service to the world. We all have our unique talents, and today I am so grateful for mine. But the suffering I went through was so unessesary- and today I am pumped to introduce you to someone who is about to change all that for many young women. Jae Schaefer, from jaeschaefer.com is a incredible writer, coach and ambassador for female empowerment. She has just released her first ebook, entitled “What Am I Doing With My Life,” which re-frames the traditional approach to career development.
Thank you so much for having me. I'm a 21 year old speaker, writer and life coach in the making from the beautiful Gold Coast.
This book is really close to my heart. It's something that has been brewing inside me for the last twelve months or so and I am so excited to be able to share it. It's everything I wish I knew at 17. It teaches you the skills you need to tap into your inner guidance system and takes you on a journey of self discovery to help you figure out what you're really passionate about and how you can turn that passion into a world-changing career you adore. I wanted to turn what is often a really scary time in a young persons life into an exciting phase of dreaming, planning and creating a path they are excited to travel.
Like most of us, I had no idea what I wanted to do when I left school. I knew I wanted to make a difference in the world and do something that made me excited to jump out of bed in the morning but I had no idea how to figure out what I was really passionate about.
After stumbling my way through three years of a degree I hated, I was completely lost. I was lacking purpose, direction and clarity and I began searching for meaning in all the wrong places. In my late teens, I developed anxiety and depression. I had panic attacks and days where I couldn’t get out of bed. I was terrified that I would wake up in ten years in a job and a life that I hated but I had no idea how to stop it happening. After some seriously bad decisions and big life lessons, I got on the path to self love. I discovered that the first step to figuring out your purpose is asking how you can use your talents and abilities to help others and then overcoming the fear that arises when we go after what we really want.
Today, I have an intense passion for sharing the knowledge I gained from my experience to help young people find out what lights them up and empower them with the strength to pursue their passion relentlessly. I live and breathe one of my favorite quotes, 'Be the person you needed when you were younger.'
Absolutely. The first step is acknowledging that their are two internal voices that compete for our attention on a moment to moment basis and the one we choose to listen to is going to have a massive impact on how we live our lives. It's so important for young women to have a practice of connecting to their higher self, their intuition, the voice that's going to guide them to the most perfect version of themselves. There are so many external voices telling us who we are and who we should be and it's hard not to get caught up in insecurity and the struggle to live up to others expectations.
For me, meditation and long walks in nature (away from technology) help me come back to that sense of inner peace and recognition of my inherent worth. It's in these moments that I connect to who I really am and practice letting go of thoughts and ideas about myself that don't serve me. As a community, we need to teach our girls that they are beautiful, incredible, capable and worthy regardless of what they do or what other people think of them and empower them to make decisions from a place of love for themselves rather than a fear of not being good enough.
I think surrounding young girls with affirmations of their brilliance is an awesome start and giving them books, lessons and role models that instil this idea that everything they need to succeed already exists inside of them. In my ideal world, parents and schools teach self love alongside Maths and English and emotional intelligence is valued just as much as intellectual ability.
1. Turn off your phone and go for a walk in a place you love. Try and stay present, take in your surroundings and switch off that internal chatter.
2. Make a Love List of all the things you love about yourself; physical traits, talents, little quirks that you have and put it somewhere you will see it every day.
3. Start meditating. Just ten minutes a day can totally change your life.
4. Begin each day by saying (out loud) three things you are grateful for.
5. Give compliments! Celebrating the things you admire in others actually opens you to receiving more of them in your own life.
A big thank you to Jae for sharing her tips and her new book with us, make sure you download a copy today!